An Anonymous Loner

We, as a society, are notorious for fire-fighting instead of life prevention. One fine day, a loner comes out of this fabricated society to a live an anonymous and obscure life. A life that makes him feel is his own for once and not like a property on sale. A life which echoes to him “It’s your life, live it for yourself.”

Coercing yourself to prove to the world out there every single day when you wake up is frustrating. The mornings seem to start yet another long day ahead for the constant acceptance where you do what is expected out of  you and not what you feel to do because then you would be judged. Finally, the conclusion, almost unanimously, the community that has the best future is the one that cares the most for you and your coming generation!

Let’s try and understand what is the community giving the coming generation? On one had we teach or rather learn in school about how everyone around us has to be treated equally irrespective of class, creed, sex and religion and on the other when it comes to actually put what we learn in practice, we succumb to the societal pressures and end up leaving our emotional needs unfulfilled eventually becoming lonely and frustrated. And then we reach a position from where one cannot retract or get back to “normalcy”. Hence, you set on the path of searching the anonymous loner in you only because you develop an aversion towards the nagging feeling of being cocooned by a society that is silk wrapped, promises you to give a life that it owns and not the life that you are an owner of.

I am sure many of us have stumbled upon a self-proclaimed non hypocrite sometime or the other who says he lives a life on his terms and conditions.  Really? Put in a little thought and you will know that he who says this is the biggest hypocrite. The irony of this thought which grows over the years within you wherein you believe that you are living your life on your own terms but actually tend to behave in a certain way and live in a malfunctioning society when you are given the regular quota of how you would be looked at the moment you step out of the four walls of your house starts to gain importance and the “craving” of being universally recognized and accepted begins to haunt.

Perhaps, a person has to let go of a lot of luxury that life throws at his/her disposal to choose a life of an anonymous loner. Why when we come alone in this world are free of worries, but as we grow and begin to understand life, we give importance to have a companion to take our life ahead? Why is there a constant need to be accepted by the society to showcase your partner/spouse so we place ourselves in the larger chuck of a “respectable society?”

It still is a taboo today when you choose to stay alone because what people fail to see is that, it’s a choice that one makes just like someone in our own country wishes to adopt two girls and raise them as a single mother. People look up to celebrities because they set examples, but when a normal person wishes to take a stand, all you see is rolling-eyes and raised eyebrows.

I am not writing a blog to preach and induce an anonymous loner’s life to everyone who reads this. It’s just a way of life one chooses, after all to one his own choice. It’s important to have “quality” time with yourself. Don’t be concerned about what is in store tomorrow if left alone because then you will turn to practices that are unhealthy. Ground realities are in fact different. And the reality is to ask yourself “is it really that a big deal?” In short, replace the faulty image with a more suitable, worthy and conscientious one. Don’t look at it as need of acceptance and approval from the so called “permissible society” because then you will never be accepted.